Everyone wants long term success. But it is elusive for most.

Long term success is dependent on knowing where you are now and where you are headed. Then closing the gap. Frequently. Continuously.  Whether it’s your business, your career or your life at home., it’s easy to get off track, lose touch or get buried under. Without a true sense of where you are in the moment, it is impossible to realize your dreams or be a leader in your field.

Re-calibrate your profound knowledge

The only way we can take 100% responsibility for sustaining our success is to keep re-calibrating-in every aspect of our lives and organizations.

Key to successful recalibration is to acquire what my dear departed mentor, Dr. W. Edwards Deming, coined as Profound Knowledge. This umbrella phrase emphasizes understanding change and how to measure it, being aware of emerging trends and shifts, and learning how to apply this knowledge to leading and sustaining long term success.

Bottom line: If we don’t acquire Profound Knowledge we cannot know how to prepare for and leverage coming change, thus how to sustain our success long term.

Understanding change means understanding shifts in our personal world as well as tracking trends that capsize us, overtake us, or cause us to flounder.

Learning the Hard Way

Unfortunately one of my Gen X male clients learned this the hard way. A rising star in his field and recently married, he was planning far a great future for his kids, tons of time for fun and all the trappings of success. As if out of the blue, the rug got pulled out from under him. His “Happy Homemaker” wife fled, saying I’m out of here!

Somewhere along the way there was a breakdown or perhaps many small fissures below the surface. Had they been recalibrating an checking in with each other, communicating the truth of what was so for each of them…perhaps they could have saved their marriage…or at least ended it with love, grace, and forgiveness.

Even in the most secure relationships, unexpected change happens to ruffle our plans. A recently returned to work mother of teenage kids reported that her new career is now going gangbusters and she no longer worries about the empty-nest . But, the new ripple in her life is that her once very successful husband, in his late 40’s, now faces an unknown future. Surprised by the shifts in his industry, “suddenly” he and his business partner are facing the probability of closing their doors. What once appeared to be the sure path to their dreams, is no crumbling beneath them.

Change is inevitable. If you can learn what Profound Knowledge is and apply it you can avoid these same pitfalls and NOT LEARN THE HARD WAY!

What steps are you going to take to future cast your long term success?

Please welcome to the Ageless Beat Blog guest poster, Michael Longsdon, whose going to be discussing Safe Ways for Seniors to Be Social While Getting Fit.

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As our bodies inevitably age, it is natural to start thinking of ways to take care of ourselves, stay fit, and boost our health. Many seniors want to make the most of their “Golden Years” by staying moderately active and social, trying new things, and cultivating healthy habits. Here are some of our favorite fun, safe ways for seniors to have fun (and be social) while getting fit.

NIA

If you’ve never heard of NIA, you’re probably not alone. It’s a relatively new practice that’s been taking the world by storm in recent years. NIA is a fusion of dance, yoga, meditation and gentle martial arts. Done barefoot in a studio surrounded by other students, NIA is a holistic fitness practice that is suitable for all ages and is especially beloved by many seniors.

All things water

From swimming pools to water aerobics, water is a great way for seniors to stay fit. Water is great for aging bodies. Its buoyancy is easy on joints. Its cooling effect is good for the heart. Its resistance allows for some cardio or aerobic activities. Water fitness also helps heal a variety of ailments, ranging from cardiovascular disease to osteoporosis to diabetes. If accessibility is a concern, there are accessible pool products available that can help.

Dance

It’s never too late to learn how to dance! Some studios will even offer discounted or free lessons to seniors. Relive your youth by grooving to some of your favorite tunes from eras gone by. If swing music is your thing, learn the Lindy Hop or the Balboa. For a fun partners’ dance, try the tango or the salsa. In fact, some studios will even teach you to dance if you’re wheelchair bound – so there’s really no excuse not to give it a try.

Gentle Yoga

When you think of yoga, chances are you’re thinking of some young, thin, flexible woman twisting herself into a pretzel. There’s so much more to yoga than that. Did you know there are gentle, relaxing types of yoga that can be done while sitting in a chair or even lying in your bed? These restorative yoga practices are great for your body and won’t have you twist into uncomfortable positions.

Tai Chi and Qi Gong

Tai Chi and Qi Gong are two ancient martial arts from China that are very suitable for people of all ages and fitness levels, including seniors. In addition to teaching you basic self defense through slow and gentle martial arts movements, these practices build strength, boost your immune system, and can reverse a variety of physical ailments.

Gardening

Anyone who tends to a garden will tell you: gardening can actually be quite a workout! Plus, it’s just a fun and fulfilling hobby. You can make gardening a social activity or a solo one. Best of all, it’s a simple activity you can do at your convenience from the comfort of your own home. Why not give it a try?

Young people don’t get to have all the fun! This list is just a handful of ideas for how seniors can really enjoy their Golden Years. There are so many ways to experience the joys of life. Try something new that will bring a smile to your face. Find something you love that will also help you get fit., stay healthy, and – who knows – maybe even make a few new friends along the way.

By Michael Longsdon

However, from the vibrating heart of our dissipating structures comes the promise of our true greatness: a greatness of awareness and action that will change the world. From the midst of the evolving Great Transition, we leave the Great Recession and the uplifting Obama era behind us as we enter an unknown, unchartered new cycle of populism and extreme radicalism ripping our valued democratic tenets to shreds and putting each of us on the line.  This Great Shift demands that we each unlock our potential for greatness which lives in each of us, and we are being called to make a difference. That is the premise of The Greatness Challenge, in which I offer a template for embracing and embodying our unique Signature Greatness DNA^SM to unleash our personal and collective greatness.

The Greatness Challenge is a manifesto for the growing wave of us who want to add value in all we do and who are being called to personal and collective evolution—from dentists to doctors, executives to engineers, artists to teachers and visionary leaders and futurists who are looking to redesign their lives so that every moment counts . . . for those of you who seek work that not only fills your bank accounts but your “values” bank as you yearn to do well doing good . . . for leaders who seek a pathway to visionary leadership, so the impact you have is of the greatest benefit for all.

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To Hire or Not to Hire: Family Caregiving and When It’s Time for a Helping Hand

By: Samantha Stein

A secure long term care coverage is difficult to find, especially when it concerns your parents. Who do you trust with their care? Would an insurance policy be enough? And which long term care insurance companies can you truly rely on?

One of the biggest components of a comprehensive long term care plan is identifying where your loved one wants to receive the care. Understandably, many individuals opt to receive care and age in their own homes for as long as their health permits it. The main reason for this is because they are most comfortable there; their houses are their safe zones. For many families, however, adult children are left to provide the care that their parents need despite the repercussions in their own lives.

This is the reality for many Millennials and Gen Xers. Thanks for the changing market that left plenty of the Baby Boomers underprepared for their own long term care needs, Millennials and Gen Xers called upon to provide the support that they need.

For many, the support that their parents need is in the form of caregiving.

Family caregiving is not an easy task. While it can be truly rewarding, the role can cause severe stress and anxiety on anyone. Many caregivers have had to drastically change their lifestyles to accommodate the new task. Some individuals have had to leave their chosen careers to care for a loved one while others have had to cut back on hours just to make room for the new demands. On top of that, family caregivers are also at risk emotionally, physically, mentally, and financially.

Fortunately, some individuals and agencies specialize in providing the care that many people need. Hiring caregivers is an ideal option because this setup provides a way for adult children to ensure that their parents get the best care without sacrificing aspects of their lives.

What to Look for in a Caregiver

Looking for a good caregiver is a challenging task, but preparing a list of qualifications and considerations can help immensely. Many people apply to senior caregiving jobs, but not all of them possess the necessary skills to provide the care needed.

Before interviewing someone for the caregiver position, you need to know the specific tasks necessary in providing the care for your parents. You may want your caregiver to help them out with personal care or meal preparation. You may also require a highly skilled person when it comes to monitoring of medications and housecleaning.

Caregiving Duties and Responsibilities

When sorting out applicants, you need to read their resumes carefully and determine the type of caregiving services they can offer. Standard duties and responsibilities of caregiving fall into three categories – companionship, home helper, and personal care.

• Companionship refers to activities that assists and encourages an individual. Providing stabilization and assistance with walking and preparing meals are examples of companionship.
• Home helper involves light housekeeping, doing errands, or incidental transporting of an older individual.
• Personal care includes assisting a person with bathing, grooming, and toileting.

Additional Qualifications

If you are short listing caregiver applicants, you might as well hire someone who possesses exceptional skills and qualifications. For example, hire someone who can drive your parents to the doctor’s clinic. Moreover, it will be helpful if you could find a caregiver who can lift, push, or pull a minimum of 25 lbs. If your family member needs assistance with transporting, the caregiver can help him or her move around the house without a problem. Essential qualifications that you need to look out for also include specialized training with CPR and life support or certification for medication monitoring.

Certainly, finding the right person to care for your parents is not easy. If you are looking for someone to tend to the needs of your loved one, consider the tips above.

Becoming More Involved

“Do you feel like 24 hours in a day is not enough?”—no one agrees more with this sentiment than the Millennials and Gen Xers.

Holding down a full-time job, raising their own children, acquiring advanced degrees—these are just some of the most important aspects that fill your lives as Millennials and Gen Xers. However, more and more individuals are being called upon to fill the role of family caregiver.

Though hiring an extra set of hands can help, you need to keep in mind that they cannot fully provide one important factor in their parents’ wellbeing: the comfort and companionship through family ties.

Understandably, accomplishing everything is easier said than done. There are already so many responsibilities on your plates that it is a struggle to incorporate caring for your parents into it. However, it can be managed.

Listed below are ways to help you succeed in providing care to your parents, on top of the demands of your everyday life.

• Share The Tasks

Other than the hired caregiver, spread the duties and visits between siblings. Create a schedule that is manageable for you and your siblings that also ensures your parents get regular visits.

• Explain Your Situation at Work

Employers are now more understanding of understanding of the demands of caregiving. They are now more accommodating, and some even offer family caregiver leaves. Others offer flexible working hours to their employees caring for their relatives.

• Support Others in the Same Situation

This might not help immediately, but appreciation and affirmation from others going through the same situation can boost a person’s outlook. Caregiving can be a big responsibility, but random acts of kindness from people in the same boat can lift anyone’s spirits.

• Sometimes, Spending Time Together is Enough

You do not have to do anything grand. Sometimes, having tea on their porch and just talking can go a long way. This type of downtime can help your parents feel valued. It can also give you time to step back from your hectic life and rest.

• Use Technology to Your Advantage

When your schedule gets too packed and physical visits become challenging, technology can bridge the gap. The misconception that most people have about Baby Boomers is that they are not good when it comes to technology. This is not entirely true.

Skype or FaceTime with them or simply call them on their mobile phones. That is what makes technology wonderful—it helps people connect even though their thousands of miles way. Taking a few minutes to call and say hi will not take too much from your day.

The reality is that caregiving can be a stressful and frustrating task. It is not easy, but it can be rewarding. These are our parents and our grandparents, and they have spent their lives providing for the family. Whether you choose to hire or step up and provide the care, are you doing everything to ensure that your parents are well protected and cared for now that the roles are reversed?

“Solitude is fine but you need someone to tell that solitude is fine.” ~ Honoré de Balzac

In my June 22, 2015 Ageless Beat blog, “Alone Doesn’t Mean Lonely….” I spoke about how we all may experience loneliness and, though it may seem ironic, sometimes it’s beneficial to spend time alone doing something nurturing to ease that sense.

In addition to finding comfort on your own, another way to overcome loneliness is by spending time with each other. There are many ways to find community and connection, whether you prefer the company of one other or many others. Below are some of the ways I have learned (and helped coaching clients) to diminish any suffering that can accompany the feeling of loneliness.

~ Make time and be fully present to nurture current relationships you feel are worth keeping, and consider letting go of those which are draining or negating. It’s easy to know which are which, just check in with your very real body messengers and trust your gut. Rather than e-mailing/texting, experiment with having more interactions over the phone (or Skype or Facetime with those at a distance) or, better yet, meet in person.

If it wasn’t for today’s technology I’d have no real relationship with my new grandkids living in Arizona. It’s the same even with my two elementary school grandkids here in the east. When they are involved with sports and birthday parties or I am engaged in business and travel, which prevent our biweekly visits, Facetime saves the day.

~ Consider volunteering. Whether you like working with animals or are seeking human interaction, volunteering for an organization (or giving in another way, like cooking a meal for someone in need) can be a great way of being with others while also doing something philanthropic.

~ Become active with an organization or group to meet others while engaging in fulfilling activities, such as: classes in exercise, art, quilting or crocheting, music, history, geography, technology, business, etc.; book groups; environmental, religious, political organizations or a professional group of your peers. MeetUp.com is one online way to find groups. Local newspapers and magazines often list events that may interest you.

~ If you are online, you can check out websites like Boomerly.com, which offer a means to connection for like-minded friends and travel companions, as well as potential romantic partners. Don’t forget your LinkedIn groups and expanding your connections on Facebook and others.

~ Check out retreats with your favorite guru or authors. Join a women’s group or a yoga center.

~ Make an appointment to speak with a ICF certified coach, licensed therapist or clergy.

~ How often do you interact with different generations? This can be a great way to inspire new connections and insights. Create an intergenerational group in your local community center or offer mentoring within your company or professional organization. Go to concerts where younger people abound.

~ Participate in online conversations like this one – offer your comments and suggestions below and let’s make this journey on The Ageless Way even better!!

The world is full of others who are seeking others… The more all of us explore, the better chance we all have of finding each other and reducing loneliness and becoming happier AND healthier.

 How would you describe what loneliness feel like? What techniques do you use to cope with, or overcome your loneliness?

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Have any of you been through a recent change or loss which transformed your role in and/or perspective about life and your future?

With graduations, weddings, and kids going off to camp, college, or on a global trek — all marker events which reach a crescendo at this time of year — many of us find ourselves on the precipice of being empty-nesters or on our own for the short or longer term. There are really no words that can adequately describe the vacuum that can engulf us when we are freshly on our own…even if we relish aspects of our new freedom. Like all things in life, there’s always a downside and upside to consider and hopefully embrace.

If you’ve had any of these experiences, even those which are positive, chances are that at some level you feared and/or felt a sense of loneliness.

According to Dr. Sanjay Gupta, in his article Loneliness Can Really Hurt You, “Loneliness is an invisible epidemic that affects 60 million Americans. Everyone feels lonely at times in their lives, but chronic loneliness poses a serious health risk. New research suggests that loneliness and social isolation are as much a threat to your health as obesity. As Richard Lang, MD, chair of preventive medicine at the Cleveland Clinic, puts it, people need to attend to loneliness ‘the same way they would their diet, exercise, or how much sleep they get’.”

As with other aspects of big “S” self-care, though, it can be confusing to know where to begin in order to feel better.

There are many ways we can all diminish loneliness, regardless of age or stage of life, both alone and with others.

So…let’s get this conversation started and begin at the heart of the matter — with YOU!

Being lonely is different than being alone (have you ever felt lonely despite being in a crowd of people?). It is a feeling, not a fact of life. In fact, time spent alone can often be exactly what you need to clear your mind, boost your energy and mood, engage your creativity and reconnect with your inner passions. Instead of putting yourself down (our natural default mechanism) find a way to take pleasure in some solitude.

Have you ever appreciated doing any of the following on your own?

* gardening

* walking along a beach

* painting/drawing

* meditating

* doing yoga

* journaling

* traveling

* going out for a meal or movie

These are just a few of the many ways to enjoy your own company.

A couple of weekends ago my husband was out of town for several days. In addition to chatting with friends I’d been meaning to catch up with, I filled my time reading, writing, and, in the best of my alone time, happily binge-watching a full year of Frankie and Grace on Netflix!

Sometimes simply reinforcing the connection with yourself is the best kick-start antidote to any lingering or pervasive sense of loneliness you may experience.

Do you have any other suggestions as to how we can ease loneliness when spending time alone? Let us know in the comments below!

(Also, be sure to check out Wednesday’s Ageless Beat blog when we continue this discussion about ways to assuage loneliness through connection with others… Any tips you think we should include in that (or future) blog(s)? Let me know today by sending an email to Karen@KarenSands.com or feel free to comment below!)

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Fuel is the starting source for producing energy and, just as with our home heating systems, our bodies require fuel in order to avoid depletion and keep going. You can’t run on empty. Becoming worn out not only affects physical health, but, in a domino effect, may also place a (literal and figurative) drag on your mental, emotional, and relational well-being.

In my May 27th Ageless Beat blog, Time Out, I wrote about the value of renewing in order to de-stress and be more productive again. This week, I want to add to that by mentioning some simple tidbits and energizing options you can try right now, regardless of finances, location, age or other circumstances.

In her article, 12 Weekend Habits of Highly Successful People, Emma Rushton suggests that the most productive and prosperous among us typically view weekends as secret weapons for success. She is quick to add that the same actions can be done all week, as well, adding a quote of Aristotle’s, “We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit.”

Rushton offers collected tidbits of wisdom from such famous high-powered people as Oprah Winfrey, Bill Gates, Anna Wintour, Timothy Ferris, and Warren Buffet. Among their suggested practices, which can be beneficial for professional, as well as personal fulfillment, are:

* Don’t multi-task, as it reduces effectiveness. Instead, be present for each single activity.

* Stay Active as an active body is key for an active mind.

* Prioritize what’s important to keep work-life harmony in balance.

* Make time for hobbies, which make for an interesting life while also fostering creativity and relieving stress (Do you prefer Indoors? Outdoors? Participation or observation? Are you a puzzle fan? An athlete? Do you ride horses, do yoga, love to collect a particular item, enjoy reading or writing, make original crafts or models, sing, work with technology/electronics, cook, collect, keep bees, etc.?).

* Practice stillness (Since recovering from surgery, I have found this to be especially helpful, particularly while sitting in my back yard on a beautiful day as I did this past Memorial Day weekend and appreciating the added healthful benefit of viewing flowers, trees and wildlife).

* Take time to reflect and assess what works and doesn’t, which activities to continue or release, what will work best to amp up your ability to be energized and successful.

* Give back – in addition to feeling great it can help re-energize your thinking in other areas.

I would also add, give fuel to yourself … you cannot live your fullest life, or even be there for those you care about, if you are on empty. Even doing just one energy-enhancing action today can begin to make a difference.

Have you felt depleted at any time lately? What did you do to re-fuel?

(Image Credit: Statue of Buddha in meditation position, garden, View Ave NW, Seattle, Washington, USA by Wonderlane, Flickr.com)